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Healing while taking care of children

We as parents hear so often to take care of ourselves. But what does that look like when you have children? Small children at that. We as mothers know first hand how stressful being a mother is but I’ve learned through those hard moments our children are the light for us. They are the light at the end of the tunnel and LOTS of prayer of course.

Forgive yourself

Forgive yourself for being in a slump, for being sad. You won’t be a perfect mommy everyday. Forgive yourself for doing what you knew how to do in that time of your life. I went through a rough breakup at the beginning of 2022. I blamed myself so many times on what I could have done differently. I blamed myself for the signs I ignored that probably wouldn’t have ended me in that hard place I was at. But truly I needed to forgive myself if I expected God to heal me. What are areas In your life do you need healed from? Are you grieving a loss? Dealing with childhood trauma? Hurting from betrayal or removing yourself from a toxic situation.

Take the time out for yourself. If you have smaller children have different sessions for yourself or include them. Take a family walk outside. Fresh air is great for renewing your mind and getting you focused. Use this time to journal whether that is on paper or in your phone. Tap into your emotions, cry if you need to. Tell God all you’re feeling. Be honest. Let it all out and don’t hold back on anything. Cuddle with your babies, that helped me a lot. God shows his amazing love for me through my youngest child, Kailani. She’s 2 and her hugs and kisses are ALWAYS right on time.

Last year during my breakup I wanted to be alone. I didn’t want to be around anyone or do anything. I didn’t know what joy was anymore. All I knew how to do was cry. Although I wanted to be alone I don’t have help with my children so I had to still take care of them. I also had to understand they didn’t understand why mommy was feeling so down and it wasn’t their job to. I had to learn how to handle my hard moment while still being with them.Have a dance party with your little ones. Not only is this great exercising and fun but it’s truly healing work for your soul and quality time with the kiddos. Sounds like a win, win to me.

Appreciate the Process

Although you’re going to hate the uncomfort and the pain in your heart eventually it will fade. The triggers that once broke you down won’t have the same affects on you later. You’ll look back on those hard days where you thought you were going to die and thank God for bringing you through it. It’s hard in those moments but without those hard moments do you really think you would have become as strong and joyful as you are now or could be? When you can think of someone or the situation that once broke you and not cry or not have that feeling of your heart shattering you have reached your stage of healing. In that moment you will feel grateful for the process and God being with you every step of the way. The anger and pain are now filled by joy, smiles and love to you and your babies.

Scriptures to stand on during your healing

Exodus 15:26 “I’m the Lord who heals you”

Isaiah 53:4 It was our weakness he carried

1 Peter 2:24. By his wounds you are healed

1 Peter 5:7 Give all your worries and cares to God for he cares about you

2 Corinthians 12:9 “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness”

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